tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post7887667873381164346..comments2024-03-11T06:22:36.107+00:00Comments on angloyankophile: Blogging: When Private Becomes PublicAngloyankophilehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comBlogger42125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-88085478148491108482015-06-01T12:20:01.285+01:002015-06-01T12:20:01.285+01:00That's awful, Polly. I've not heard of peo...That's awful, Polly. I've not heard of people being openly vicious like that, but it really makes you think and want to become more protective of yourself and what you share! Thanks for reminding me that there are some crazies out there - eeks! xxAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-17314674842576199982015-06-01T12:19:01.149+01:002015-06-01T12:19:01.149+01:00Haha, yes, as an employer myself, I definitely Goo...Haha, yes, as an employer myself, I definitely Google candidates ... have seen some interesting Twitter profiles pop up! Good rules of thumb to remember there, Kelly - thanks for sharing xxAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-37239603553783287512015-06-01T12:18:08.856+01:002015-06-01T12:18:08.856+01:00Thank you! It's definitely been an interesting...Thank you! It's definitely been an interesting topic to think about, and I've really liked hearing everyone's thoughts on this topic, which has made me uneasy/freak out for a while now!Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-57840960057020241002015-06-01T12:09:23.787+01:002015-06-01T12:09:23.787+01:00I had a bit of an unpleasant experience not so lon...I had a bit of an unpleasant experience not so long ago which got me thinking about the level of sharing in the 'blogosphere'. A girl who lives in Qatar had begun writing a blog with what seemed like the sole intent of hurting other people by writing elaborate stories about things they'd said and done. I knew a few of the individuals involved, and although they weren't ever explicitly named, Qatar is a very small place and it was obvious who she was referring to. I was so shocked and it made me worry about the level to which I talk about my personal relationships and interactions - things can easily get misinterpreted in print and once something has been published, it can't ever be taken back. At the same time, I want to maintain my blog as an honest and open account of my life. As you say, this is what keeps people interested and coming back for more! A balance needs to be struck and it's a difficult one to navigate at times. Thanks for a very thought-provoking post :-)<br /><br />Polly xx<br /><a href="http://www.followyoursunshine.me" rel="nofollow">Follow Your Sunshine</a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04133039014269153256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-87625042255881700882015-05-29T20:22:25.678+01:002015-05-29T20:22:25.678+01:00I'm a total over sharer on my blog; the blog i...I'm a total over sharer on my blog; the blog is me and in real life I'm an over sharer and talk way too much. If I go out with a friend or my other half then blog about it, I always just use their initial unless they want to have their 5 minutes of fame.<br />While I over share about a lot of things, I do keep my surname out of the blogging world as I have a career and blogging is just my hobby. There would be nothing more embarrassing then having my potential future employer google me and have my blog pop up in front of them (and yes future employers do google!)<br />xxKelly Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17894051186488625771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-14848598415222971612015-05-29T11:16:26.702+01:002015-05-29T11:16:26.702+01:00I love that you've articulated exactly what so...I love that you've articulated exactly what so many of us are thinking! It's nice to know we're all grappling with the same sorts of questions!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-581081555379371262015-05-29T10:28:51.108+01:002015-05-29T10:28:51.108+01:00That's a *terrific* guide to use, Ruth. Defini...That's a *terrific* guide to use, Ruth. Definitely keeping that in mind for my posts! Thanks for sharing.Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-23823045780649019372015-05-28T18:41:14.612+01:002015-05-28T18:41:14.612+01:00It's an eternal dilemma, how much to share. My...It's an eternal dilemma, how much to share. My husband doesn't want to be identified at all and we both agreed that I wouldn't use our son's real name on my blog. As we (I) have become more "used" to the idea of our son's diagnosis of autism, I have written about it what it's like to live with, mainly in regard to education and the state of children's services in our borough. I post photos of my son's friends when I know that their parents won't mind and they all have pen names as well ~ The Good Friend, The Friend Who Mothers Him, that sort of thing. I don't identify my bit of London either. My guide is to only share the personal stuff online if I am happy to tell people the same face-to-face. Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18032490985687716495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-21321771769193553392015-05-28T15:04:57.153+01:002015-05-28T15:04:57.153+01:00God, I almost HATE speaking because I feel like I ...God, I almost HATE speaking because I feel like I can never find the words I want. And unless I'm SUPER comfortable (like with my mom, husband, or very best friend), I always have a level of nervousness that clouds my words. Second Floor Flathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756771578184447195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-30718784033453642622015-05-28T15:04:08.927+01:002015-05-28T15:04:08.927+01:00Thanks so much, Lauren - loved hearing your though...Thanks so much, Lauren - loved hearing your thoughts on this! xxAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-18029652740860473672015-05-28T15:03:32.013+01:002015-05-28T15:03:32.013+01:00YES TO IT ALL! I also find that I articulate mysel...YES TO IT ALL! I also find that I articulate myself better through written (rather than spoken) words. I tend to get awkward and teary and all, "I don't know" when trying to tell someone something difficult. I can't find the words to explain myself when I'm talking.Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-73063851609255520842015-05-28T15:01:35.554+01:002015-05-28T15:01:35.554+01:00Glad to hear that I'm not the only one, Bailie...Glad to hear that I'm not the only one, Bailie! I'm intrigued by your blog - and the notion of living abroad in Sweden as an American! Will be stopping by for a visit later! Thanks for sharing your thoughts.Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-78209746380846927022015-05-28T14:57:37.940+01:002015-05-28T14:57:37.940+01:00Totally makes sense! I know what you mean though –...Totally makes sense! I know what you mean though – I'm weirdly more comfortable talking about anxiety or depression than I am talking about my insecurities about my blog or my work. Maybe it's because that somehow feels more personal to me, whereas I look at my anxiety as something that's seperate from me in a way? Eh? Oh and by the way, I'd love to know – do you feel more comfortable writing personal things online than you would bringing up with people you actually know, and in person? I've found that my personal writing has been cathartic and actually opened me up to being more comfortable talking about my issues (or whatever) to people in my real life. Does that make sense?Second Floor Flathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756771578184447195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-20833927031671750612015-05-28T14:51:05.314+01:002015-05-28T14:51:05.314+01:00Your writing is the perfect example of striking ju...Your writing is the perfect example of striking just the right balance when it comes to personal writing. Your personal posts were what drew me to your blog in the first place, and the ones I look forward to the most (though I look forward to ALL of your posts!). It's funny; I felt more vulnerable writing this post than anything else I've shared ... I guess it's a little meta, because it's almost writing about thinking about what I'm thinking. If that makes any sense! Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-68221530774025346232015-05-28T13:32:41.161+01:002015-05-28T13:32:41.161+01:00I am also a talker, my husband is always reminding...I am also a talker, my husband is always reminding me when we are going to be meeting new people to keep the nervous chatter to a minimum because once I start I cannot stop. On my blog I share a lot of myself but not so much the small details of life. I like sharing my ideas, opinions, and views on life and seeing how others feel on the same matters and putting my ideas into the world in the blogging manner. I am also the same way in real life though, as some mentioned they keep their significant other private even at work whereas my boss was at my wedding as a friend not an obligation. <br />Bailie @ The Hemborg Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16723431374621324385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-89500058916383910792015-05-28T13:13:13.441+01:002015-05-28T13:13:13.441+01:00What I do mimics a lot of the advice that's ou...What I do mimics a lot of the advice that's out there on this topic, and that's to trust your gut completely. Where to draw the line for how much to share and when will vary for each person and in each situation. The big questions come into play when other people are involved – family members, and especially children as you mentioned. In those cases, you're then putting those peoples lives in a public forum which gets a little trickier.<br /><br />I love it when you share personal things and I actually wish bloggers and people in general would do it more – especially when it comes to things like grief, depression, and anxiety. We all deal with similar things and I think the more we all share (at the level where we're all most comfortable), the better.Second Floor Flathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03756771578184447195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-55210017767560474352015-05-28T10:22:35.020+01:002015-05-28T10:22:35.020+01:00I've been having the same thoughts recently, a...I've been having the same thoughts recently, and when I hosted the #lbloggers chat a few weeks ago this was my topic! It's such a hard balance to achieve I think. Anything work related is off the table for me - it's just a non starter for me to mix my blog and my future job.<br /><br />Also, when it comes to my relationship, I'm pretty cagey on that one too - as both my boyfriend and I are very keen that our relationship and personal lives stay between us. I really admire people who can post openly about their relationships, but it's not me and I really don't think it's a part of my blog either. I love it when you write your honest posts - I think they're great and really set your blog apart (not into a niche though ;) hehe). <br /><br />To be honest, I think for me it's more a case of trial and error and most importantly, never sharing something that someone else would be uncomfortable with.<br /><br />Lauren xx<br /><a href="" rel="nofollow"> The Lifestyle Diaries </a>Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16636367563545997060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-1666505907022945722015-05-28T10:16:59.754+01:002015-05-28T10:16:59.754+01:00Thanks, Kelsey! Yes, I agree - I like to keep my w...Thanks, Kelsey! Yes, I agree - I like to keep my work life and blog life separate. A colleague who's on maternity leave caught on to my Instagram at some point and found me yesterday to say that she had no idea I'd been living (not in a bad way) this "double life"! I laughed. xAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-53778081072343920012015-05-28T10:15:57.355+01:002015-05-28T10:15:57.355+01:00That's an excellent way to gauge the appropria...That's an excellent way to gauge the appropriate place to draw the line, Elise - thank you for sharing your thoughts!Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-4123595477478274332015-05-28T10:15:13.126+01:002015-05-28T10:15:13.126+01:00Thanks so much, Gianni. Your support and kind word...Thanks so much, Gianni. Your support and kind words mean so much to me - as does every comment you post here. Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-64330156969367279542015-05-28T10:14:46.437+01:002015-05-28T10:14:46.437+01:00Thanks for sharing, Charlene! Totally agree with a...Thanks for sharing, Charlene! Totally agree with avoiding posts with the sole purpose of boosting page views ...!<br /><br />I've also been fortunate enough to meet some wonderful people through blogging - isn't it the funniest thing? And then when they meet me, they're like, "I feel like I know you so well!" which is kind of strange yet funny at the same time! xAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-50093994642462649192015-05-28T10:14:30.165+01:002015-05-28T10:14:30.165+01:00LOVE this post!! So true. I recently opened up my ...LOVE this post!! So true. I recently opened up my social media to people after not wanting to because of people at work etc. I still find it a bit difficult when I see work friends like my things and knowing they're potentially reading my things. Of course, that's the point of a blog etc but there's something about it that I'd prefer to keep it personal from them. <br />I too, worry if I share too much or if I'm too cryptic and should share more. It's a constant battle!<br /><br />K.Kelseyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11317091098854921868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-11867086527157990282015-05-28T10:08:18.614+01:002015-05-28T10:08:18.614+01:00Completely agree, Angie - thank you for your lovel...Completely agree, Angie - thank you for your lovely and thoughtful comment, as always! xxAngloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-53082088023449843872015-05-28T10:07:51.964+01:002015-05-28T10:07:51.964+01:00Thanks for sharing, Jacky! And I agree with you re...Thanks for sharing, Jacky! And I agree with you re: liking blogs the best where the blogger shares somethign of themselves. There's a kind of authenticity there that's rare to find these days, I think.Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-1289212640536123882015-05-28T10:07:06.381+01:002015-05-28T10:07:06.381+01:00Absoultely, Marjorie - I have post ideas, etc. tha...Absoultely, Marjorie - I have post ideas, etc. that I'd love to publish on here, but that I think would be better saved for pitching to a publication, perhaps, as they're a little heavier in topic. Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.com