tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post1324499840290797528..comments2024-03-11T06:22:36.107+00:00Comments on angloyankophile: Oh, You're Lonely? Go Make Some Friends.Angloyankophilehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-74120796028197076442013-11-21T11:47:11.748+00:002013-11-21T11:47:11.748+00:00Thanks a lot, Becky - and thank you for sharing yo...Thanks a lot, Becky - and thank you for sharing your story. It made me sad to read about your first two jobs in Radio and PR. There's nothing worse than a cliquey workplace. So childish and unnecessary, really. I'm glad you have such solid, strong friendships now!Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-39829201696944301622013-11-21T11:46:04.243+00:002013-11-21T11:46:04.243+00:00I totally agree that culture matters, Rhea! Lindse...I totally agree that culture matters, Rhea! Lindsey brought up a good point on Facebook - do you think age matters too? She said she goes for "quality" friendships more now rather than "quantity".Angloyankophilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13798135990583648390noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-77545575809424728362013-11-20T22:49:46.729+00:002013-11-20T22:49:46.729+00:00This is so true! Great post, I really enjoy your w...This is so true! Great post, I really enjoy your writing style. :-) I have found the same in the past- I was a social animal all the way through school, a big fish in a small pond I guess, so the wider world was a bit of a shock! I was lucky that at uni I made friends straight away in my halls (Some of my best friends now 11 years on and Godmothers to one of my children) BUT the first course I enrolled in- awful. No one on it seemed to want to engage, and the same happened again in some societies I tried to get involved in. Either no one really chatted, or the people already established in them were really cliquey, and it was hard to get 'in' and be accepted unless you were 'lucky' (i use that term loosely). Same with my first two jobs working in Radio and PR- cliquey and hard to penetrate socially, both men and women. A few nice people but I felt quite miserable and lonely, especially as i'd just moved to London then. Luckily things picked up in future jobs, with nicer people (I was beginning to wonder what was wrong with me!), and I made some great friends then through work, and i've now met some lovely mums at playgroups and the like too who I meet up with regularly. It's definitely not easy to meet new friends, but in a way I think it's good that these friendships take time to develop, as you know that they're genuine. I've had 'friends' who i've had in the past who I now know were purely drinking buddies, and we didn't have much in common other than the Friday night two bottles of Sauvignon. Don't get me wrong, wine is great for friendships, but you need to stick by each other when not on the sauce too! Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16530286317407275985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3743876470050160495.post-2648418813024724492013-11-20T20:12:36.102+00:002013-11-20T20:12:36.102+00:00omg. seriously that is really true. also it's ...omg. seriously that is really true. also it's different in different parts of the country. for example, i found it pretty easy to make friends when i moved to chicago (well not *real* friends but at least to meet people). whereas, the entire time i lived on the east coast i felt alone and lonely and miserable because there's just a different culture that is not the same as my native texan attitude. though i also feel that there are a lot of people out there that don't have very deep friendships and yeah, i guess if all you want to do is go and drink together, it's not that hard to find people. but to have meaningful relationships, takes time and hard work.rheahttp://words.rhealitycheck.comnoreply@blogger.com